Church consumers is such a big issue in America, we are filled with people who are afraid to commit and become members. I minister to college students who are probably the biggest offenders of this commitment phobia so often sadly it is students who were raised in the church that are the most flaky. I have spoken with students who seem so stoked to be committed one week just to run off to the "next" thing the following week. It may have a lot to do with our "Have It Your Way Right of Way" mindset we have been raised in, and also that we all are selfish sinners that want to be served rather than serve. We do not want to be challenged with doctrine and forbid it if we actually are to submit to elders and be willing to be under church discipline!
I firmly echo and agree what pastor Mark Driscoll of Mars Hill Church in Seattle says here: